Index The Clever Connector: The Easiest Way to Become Powerful, Regardless of Your Situation. The Underdog's Guide to Networking with Billionaires, Celebrities, and Executives

The Clever Connector: The Easiest Way to Become Powerful, Regardless of Your Situation. The Underdog's Guide to Networking with Billionaires, Celebrities, and Executives

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INTRODUCTION

1. Dweck, Carol. “Carol Dweck Revisits the ‘Growth Mindset’.” Growth Mindset, Revisited 35, no. 05 (September 23, 2015): 20–24.

https://www.edweek.org/ew/articles/2015/09/23/carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset.html?cmp=cpc-goog-ew-growthmindset&ccid=growthmindset&ccag=growthmindset&cckw=+growth+mindset&cccv=contentad&gclid=Cj0KEQiAnvfDBRCXrabLl6-6t-0BEiQAW4SRUM7nekFnoTxc675qBMSJycFgwERohguZWVmNDcSUg5gaAk3I8P8HAQ.

STEP ONE: KNOW THE POWER DYNAMICS

1. “Stereotype Content Model.” Wikipedia. Wikimedia Foundation, February 14, 2020.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stereotype_content_model.

2. Fiske, Susan T., Amy J. Cuddy, Glick Peter, and Jun Xu. “‘A Model of (Often Mixed) Stereotype Content: Competence and Warmth Respectively Follow from Perceived Status and Competition’: Correction to Fiske Et Al. (2002).” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2019.

https://doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000163.

3. Fiske, Susan T., Amy J.c. Cuddy, and Peter Glick. “Universal Dimensions of Social Cognition: Warmth and Competence.” Trends in Cognitive Sciences 11, no. 2 (2007): 77–83.

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2006.11.005.

4. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Social Skills Overview: Adding Warmth to Increase Power.” The Power Moves, May 8, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/courses/social-power/lessons/warmth-and-power/.

5. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Social Skills Overview: Adding Warmth to Increase Power.” The Power Moves, May 8, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/courses/social-power/lessons/warmth-and-power/.

6. McGraw, Jay. “There Is No Reality, Only Perception.” In Life Strategies for Teens, 1St Editioned., 141–53. Touchstone, n.d.

7. Buffalmano, Lucio. “The 10 Traits of High-Value Men (W/ Examples).” The Power Moves, May 3, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/high-quality-men/.

8. “The Science of WHY.” Simon Sinek, October 9, 2018.

https://simonsinek.com/commit/the-science-of-why/.

9. McGraw, Jay. “You Create Your Own Experience.” In Life Strategies for Teens, 1St Editioned., 67–83. Touchstone, n.d.

10. Dixon, Walter, and Michael Pantalon. Instant Influence: How to Get Anyone to Do Anything--Fast. 1 Editioned. Little, Brown Spark, 2011.

STEP TWO: ADOPT THE HELPFUL MINDSETS

1. Amatenstein, Sherry. “How to Overcome Depression: 5 Things You Can Do NOW to Make a Meaningful Impact.” Psycom.net - Mental Health Treatment Resource Since 1986, January 20, 2020.

https://www.psycom.net/therapist-plan-for-overcoming-depression/.

2. Buffalmano, Lucio. “10 Frame Control Techniques to Out-Frame Anyone.” The Power Moves. Accessed May 30, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/frame-control/.

3. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 23–23. Free Press, 1989.

4. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Foreword.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 9–9. Free Press, 1989.

5. MasterClass. MasterClass. Accessed May 16, 2020.

https://www.masterclass.com/classes/chris-voss-teaches-the-art-of-negotiation.

6. Buffalmano, Lucio. “The 4 Fundamental Strategies of Power.” The Power Moves, May 23, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/the-fundamental-strategies-of-power/.

7. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 21–21. Free Press, 1989.

8. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 23–23. Free Press, 1989.

9. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 24–24. Free Press, 1989.

10. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 28–28. Free Press, 1989.

11. Bet-David, Patrick. “The Evolution of Your Why.” Patrick Bet-David, August 24, 2018.

https://www.patrickbetdavid.com/evolution-of-your-why/.

12. Dixon, Walter, and Michael Pantalon. Instant Influence: How to Get Anyone to Do Anything--Fast. 1 Editioned. Little, Brown Spark, 2011.

13. Taleb, Nassim Nicholas. Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder (Incerto). Reprint Editioned. Random House Trade Paperbacks, 2014.

14. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Antifragile Ego - The Source of Eternal, Unassailable Confidence.” In Ultimate Power, 8–8, 2018.

15. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Antifragile Ego - The Source of Eternal, Unassailable Confidence.” In Ultimate Power, 8–8, 2018.

16. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Antifragile Ego - The Source of Eternal, Unassailable Confidence.” In Ultimate Power, 9–9, 2018.

17. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Antifragile Ego - The Source of Eternal, Unassailable Confidence.” In Ultimate Power, 11–11, 2018.

18. Moore, Robert L., and Douglas Gillette. King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. Reprint Editioned. New York: HarperOne, 1991.

19. Anthony, Jon. “Number Six: Understand Male Psychology.” In 7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity, 40–40, 2016.

20. Anthony, Jon. “Number Six: Understand Male Psychology.” In 7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity, 42–42, 2016.

21. Anthony, Jon. “Number Six: Understand Male Psychology.” In 7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity, 43–43, 2016.

22. Anthony, Jon. “Number Six: Understand Male Psychology.” In 7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity, 44–44, 2016.

23. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Antifragile Ego - The Source of Eternal, Unassailable Confidence.” In Ultimate Power, 10–10, 2018.

24. Bet-David, Patrick. “20 Things That Motivate People.” Patrick Bet-David, December 14, 2018.

https://www.patrickbetdavid.com/20-things-motivate-people/.

25. Stoltz, Paul Gordon., and Erik Weihenmayer. “Introduction.” In The Adversity Advantage: Turning Everyday Struggles into Everyday Greatness: Updated with New Stories from the Seven Summits and Expedition Photographs, xx-xx. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2010.

26. Stoltz, Paul Gordon., and Erik Weihenmayer. “Summit Three: Engage Your CORE.” In The Adversity Advantage: Turning Everyday Struggles into Everyday Greatness: Updated with New Stories from the Seven Summits and Expedition Photographs, 85-91. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2010.

27. Elmore, Tim. “Building A Work Ethic In Today’s Professionals.” In Managing the Toughest Generation, 11–11. Poet Gardener Publishing. Accessed May 11, 2020.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b9270fd697a981478cecb71/t/5c5891d09140b749f5a5a2c4/1549308371485/ManagingtheToughestGeneration.pdf.

28. Selig, Meg. “9 Reasons You Need a Personal Motto.” Psychology Today, August 21, 2015.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/changepower/201508/9-reasons-you-need-personal-motto.

29. 12 Military Mottos For Entrepreneurs. Valuetainment, 2016. https://rb.gy/ecnnxz.

30. Elmore, Tim. “Building A Work Ethic In Today’s Professionals.” In Managing the Toughest Generation, 25–25. Poet Gardener Publishing. Accessed May 11, 2020.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b9270fd697a981478cecb71/t/5c5891d09140b749f5a5a2c4/1549308371485/ManagingtheToughestGeneration.pdf.

31. Mind Tools Content Team. “Pink’s Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose Framework: Encouraging Self-Motivation.” From MindTools.com. Accessed May 17, 2020.

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/autonomy-mastery-purpose.htm.

32. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 28–28. Free Press, 1989.

33. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 18–18. Free Press, 1989.

STEP THREE: REMEMBER THE BASIC RULES AND PRINCIPLES

1. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 22–22. Free Press, 1989.

2. The 6-Step Formula For Building Your “Million Dollar Network” - Overnight. Peter J Voogd. Gamechangers Inc, 2020.

https://rb.gy/dry3ix.

3. Anthony, Jon. “6 Major Life Lessons From Nearly a Decade of Self-Development.” Masculine Development, March 3, 2019.

https://www.masculinedevelopment.com/6-major-life-lessons/.

4. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Social Exchange Theory: Implications & Examples.” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/the-social-exchange-rule/.

5. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Forum, Welcome!: Start Here, Introduce Yourself, Hi, Slightly Confused but Love the Site.” The Power Moves, May 22, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/hi-slightly-confused-but-love-the-site/#postid-1097.

6. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Forum, Public Forum: Power Dynamics, Case Studies: What’s in It for Them Guys, WIIFT, Never Forget It!” The Power Moves, April 5, 2019.

https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/whats-in-it-for-me-guys-wiifm-never-forget-it/.

7. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 35–35. Free Press, 1989.

8. Stotz, Dan, and Bob Littell. “Three NetWeaving Mistakes to Avoid.” Coursera. Accessed May 25, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/PYnop?t=79.

9. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Part One, Inside-Out : Paradigms and Principles.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 34–34. Free Press, 1989.

10. Stotz, Dan, and Tim Elmore. “Habitudes for Mid-Career Professionals - Career Habitudes | Coursera.” Coursera. Accessed May 19, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/qArqD?t=103.

11. Buffalmano, Lucio. “What to Text When She Doesn’t Text Back (Just Copy Paste This!).” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/7-texts-that-will-make-her-reply/.

STEP FOUR: NETWORKING STRATEGIES TO CONNECT

1. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Submissive Signs: How Submission Looks.” The Power Moves, May 8, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/courses/social-power/lessons/body-language-of-submissiveness/.

2. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Styles of Dominance: Pick Yours.” The Power Moves, May 8, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/courses/social-power/lessons/types-of-dominant-personalities/.

3. How to Network Like Casanova. Valuetainment, 2016.

https://rb.gy/hyajmq.

4. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Tai Lopez: Scam or Legit? Persuasion Techniques Revealed - Power Moves.” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/tai-lopez-scam/.

5. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Never Split the Difference: Summary & Review in PDF.” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/never-split-the-difference/.

6. McGraw, Jay. “You Either Get It, Or You Don’t.” In Life Strategies for Teens, 1St Editioned., 11–65. Touchstone, n.d.

7. Buffalmano, Lucio. “How to Be Charming: The Art of Social Seduction.” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/how-to-be-charming/.

8. Bailey, Simon T. “Building Business Relationships - Establish Your Personal Brand.” LinkedIn, March 19, 2019.

https://www.linkedin.com/learning/building-business-relationships-2/establish-your-personal-brand.

9. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Tai Lopez: Scam or Legit? Persuasion Techniques Revealed - Power Moves.” The Power Moves, April 4, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/tai-lopez-scam/.

10. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Forum, Public Forum: Power Dynamics, Persuasion / Negotiation, Use Positive Sentences: People Focus on Keywords, Not Whole Sentences (Modi Example).” The Power Moves, March 26, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/use-positive-sentences-people-focus-on-keywords-not-whole-sentences-modi-example/.

11. How To Self-Promote As An Entrepreneur. Valuetainment, 2016.

https://rb.gy/e3mbud.

12. Stotz, Dan, and Bob Littell. “NetWeaving Skills.” Coursera. Accessed May 25, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/BGXIK?t=119.

13. Stotz, Dan, and Bob Littell. “Three NetWeaving Mistakes to Avoid.” Coursera. Accessed May 25, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/PYnop?t=79.

14. Hain, Randy. “Best & Worst Practices for Growing Professional Networks.” Randy’s Blog, April 4, 2014.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/supplement/00aOY/best-and-worst-practices-for-growing-professional-networks.

15. Rediscovering Personal Networking: Michael Goldberg at TEDxMillRiver. TEDx Talks, 2013.

https://rb.gy/xaaet1.

STEP FIVE: GET A MENTOR. THEN, GET ANOTHER ONE.

1. Logsdon, Skyler. “Building Professional Relationships - How Mentorship Works.” LinkedIn Learning, December 21, 2018.

https://www.linkedin.com/learning/building-professional-relationships/how-mentorship-works.

2. Stotz, Dan, and Wes Rhea. “Finding a Mentor - Finding a Mentor.” Coursera. Accessed May 27, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/7DwF0/finding-a-mentor.

3. Bailey, Simon T. “Building Business Relationships - Find a Mentor.” LinkedIn Learning, March 19, 2019.

https://www.linkedin.com/learning/building-business-relationships-2/find-a-mentor.

4. Kay, Monica. “Clarifying Expectations of the Mentor Relationship.” Coursera. Accessed May 28, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/supplement/cFQpa/clarifying-expectations-of-the-mentor-relationship.

5. Frank, William S. “The Career Advisor25 Hot Tips For Your Career.” CareerLab®. Accessed May 30, 2020.

http://www.careerlab.com/art_25hottips.htm.

STEP SIX: MAKING YOUR OWN OPPORTUNITIES

1. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Forum, Customers Only: Power University Talks, Re: ‘Thank You’, When to Use It, and When Not?” The Power Moves, December 12, 2019.

https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/re-thank-you/.

EPILOGUE: THIS IS NOT THE END. QUITE THE OPPOSITE.

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2. Elmore, Tim. “Building A Work Ethic In Today’s Professionals.” In Managing the Toughest Generation, 22–22. Poet Gardener Publishing. Accessed May 11, 2020.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b9270fd697a981478cecb71/t/5c5891d09140b749f5a5a2c4/1549308371485/ManagingtheToughestGeneration.pdf.

3. Stotz, Dan, and Tim Elmore. “Why Are Habitudes Important? - Career Habitudes | Coursera.” Coursera. Accessed May 11, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/lecture/career-advancement/why-are-habitudes-important-Ncfh5.

4. Stotz, Dan, and Tim Elmore. “Career Advice from Dr. Tim Elmore.” Coursera. Accessed June 1, 2020.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/career-advancement/lecture/r87dL?t=26.

5. Buffalmano, Lucio. “Forum, Public Forum: Life Strategies, Workplace Strategies, Tech Skills Give You Job Security. People Skills Give You Board Seats.” The Power Moves, April 11, 2020.

https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/tech-skills-give-you-job-security-people-skills-give-you-board-seats/.

6. Frank, William S. “The Career Advisor25 Hot Tips For Your Career.” CareerLab®. Accessed May 30, 2020.

http://www.careerlab.com/art_25hottips.htm.

7. Covey, Stephen Richards. “Foreword.” In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 12–12. Free Press, 1989.